The ideals of romantic love are unrealistic in the long term, according to Alain de Botton, author of The Course of Love. He joins Jane and gives us a lesson in realistic relationships. He says, 鈥楲ove is not just something we feel, it鈥檚 not just an emotion, it鈥檚 actually a skill and we鈥檝e got to learn this skill.鈥�