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Response to your experiences of miscarriages
Thanks to all of you who took part in today's discussion. You had some extremely moving stories, and I hope you'll continue to post on the relevant thread.
You can listen back to the discussion in the Â鶹Éç iPlayer.
Most people who contacted the programme thought it was absolutely right to air such issues. We had a couple of emails and a couple of text messages (no more than that), complaining that we had turned into Woman's Hour on Radio 4...
"Oops! my mistake, I've clearly turned on woman's hour. You tried very hard yesterday to turn the 'dangers of walking on the street at night' to be just a female problem. Surely there's enough stuff in the world that affects us all - why cut out 50% of listeners to the topic? All the best, Leon "
I don't believe it's a subject that only affects women, as was clearly demonstrated on the show today. But is it strictly news?
Thks
Victoria
Following my miscarriage (at 18 weeks in 2006), what l found most difficult to deal with was the effect that it had upon my other childen, who were then 4 and 6. We had waited until after 12 weeks to tell anyone, including them, and they had been really excited at the prospect of a new baby and were keen to be the ones to tell everyone else about it.
I was so shocked to find out the baby had died at my 16 week scan having experienced the usual morning sickness right up to that point and no signs that anything was wrong.
My 6 year old was absolutely shattered by the news. He was getting upset at school and l felt helpless to comfort him as l was an emotional mess, waiting for "nature to take its course" - as many listeners have said. Fine if you can sit around "waiting" all day, but very difficult to work around two other children knowing that you could miscarry at any moment.
I think it is important to talk about miscarriage - if only as a warning to would-be parents to guard their "news" carefully until after the 16-week scan, especially from young children.
Very good show, today. Helped me get a little further along the road.
Hi Victoria, may I enquire if you are related to the Derbyshire's from Tuxford, in Notts? I used to work with Tony in the 70's and haven't had contact since the late 80's. Can you give them my contact details if you are related
Thanks